Discovering it difficult to explain what death is and its associated grief to a child? Get expert parenting suggestions on how to deal with such a situation.
Recently there was a bereavement in a neighbor’s home and the little kid was informed that the individual has actually gone to see God. Over the last week, I felt sorry for the little fellow, he understands that something is not correct and he’s carrying on with his typical activities.
I’m sure he’ll be asking concerns at his house about the absence of member of the family during pooja and other times.
My concern is how do we explain, these things to kids. If we try to tell in real terms, they may have fear/nightmares, may not comprehend. Elders in the house might be annoyed regarding why we need to go over such inauspicious things.
Or, should we simply permit nature’s way, with time they would discover themselves.
9 Answers discovered.
01 Feb 2018 05:09.
Children would have more accessory to every members of the family and even one bereavement would shake them quite. For the age of kid at 5, the word death may be unknown aspect, but once again he may have the sense that some thing has actually failed as there would ratings of visitors to your house and the routines that happens would bring him enough questions. But senior citizens in the family ought to handle or divert the attention of the child or the neighbour or relative need to eliminate the kid for some time and then expose the genuine occurring one day based the maturity of the child.
K Mohan @ Moga.
‘ Idhuvum Kadandhu Pogum “.
Even this difficult scenario would relieve.
01 Feb 2018 05:37.
This is what elders do. They say God has called the person up.
However I try to keep this as raw and true as possible. So I typically state “stopped breathing”.
Kids should not know the true meaning of death but at the same time without learning about death they’ll have no worry. We must hence teach kids about death in a really young age.
Schools nowadays are including topics like mummification into 1st class syllabus.
This makes kids curious about death.
They’ll have the ability to discover without feeling bad this way.
The stronger a light shines the darker are the shadows around it.
01 Feb 2018 14:57.
One day or other they will familiarize about the death that occurred in your home. So it is constantly advisable to tell them the fact but in such a way that they will comprehend the problem that the individual will not return. Nowadays the kids are also really intelligent and they will be seeing these deaths and related matters on TVs and smartphones. So I think we need not worry that much about how to tell them. They themselves will understand the issue.
02 Feb 2018 16:29.
The fact might be explained to the child in the way how the kid can comprehend. All the details may be made understood to the child, consisting of the significance of death in a manner that the kid can understand. Might be examples from animals, like dogs or cats, which are around could be revealed. Obviously the kid’ s age is an element based on that only the description will help. Explanations based on real are always much better than telling ‘God has called’ like descriptions.
05 Feb 2018 17:10.
This is a truly difficult concern. The viewpoint will be different due to the fact that everyone judges this concern from his/her own perspective. I would discuss death to a kid as irreversible sleep. I would say that after finishing the appointed jobs, the person has actually gone to permanent sleep.
The next natural concern would be: “Then why are all crying?” I would explain that the relatives are weeping since they won’t be able to get the business of the sleeping individual’s business.
” If you are eliminated in action, you go to Heaven. If you win, you rule this Earth (as lovely as Heaven). That is why, O kid of Kunti, take a company resolve and battle!”– Shrimad Bhagwad Gita.
10 Feb 2018 17:00.
Probably the child would not be satisfied with my response if I state that the old man whose lap offered you so much convenience is now no more or rather he has gone under long-term sleep. The kid then would take a look around the prevailing circumstance where some women and gents are crying loudly and such bizarre behaviour is not appropriate to him if a male is under deep sleep.
He has actually been told earlier that one need to not make any sound if someone sleeps. He takes a look at me with disbelief although I attempted my best to convince him.
The child is quite sure that his precious would not hug him in the next time.
24 Aug 2018 10:18.
Before we make an effort to describe Death to somebody (even a child), we should first ask ourselves– Do I myself understand the reality? Do I understand what Death truly is?
Probably, what will all know is just the concept given to us. Death could be considered as the conclusion of your physical body or a state of deep sleep or a door to a new life. It could be anything.
And for that reason, no matter what we discuss to a child, it is bound to be a lie. And if one truly needs to give an explanation, at least discuss it in a manner which motivates the kid and enhances his faith in God & Higher Powers.
The True explanation will pertain to him at the correct time.
” If you wish to make real progress, you need to quit all ideas of individual attainment”.
26 Feb 2019 10:25.
The only benefit of them being kids is that, they will forget the matter quite soon. So, all you need to do, is manage the existing circumstance.
It is just coping with the lack of the departed individual, that we discover it much more difficult.
So, at the best we can tell them, the individual is called by God, and for a very long time we will not be able to see him/her around.
If the kid asks more questions, like will he/she return, or when will he return, we have to say, that “no, we only can meet him, when God will call us one by one, and we do not know when that will happen and where god has kept him. So, we can’t satisfy him/he as per our desire, that is why all of us are feeling unfortunate, and sobbing.”.
If they occur to see the dead person, and inquire about the absence of action in him/her, you can describe, when God calls, the individual enters deep sleep and can not respond.