Comments on: Why Spanking Doesn’t Work http://theattachedparent.com/42/why-spanking-does-not-work/ Mon, 16 Apr 2012 23:54:57 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: anita http://theattachedparent.com/42/why-spanking-does-not-work/#comment-124 anita Sat, 21 Jan 2012 15:55:51 +0000 http://www.theattachedparent.com/42/why-spanking-doesn%e2%80%99t-work/#comment-124 A well written post this, covering all facets about why a parent should refrain from spanking. I'll admit I did try it once but felt terrible afterwards. When talking or explaining didn't work either, I decided to refuse to let him do things he loved doing the most. And thankfully, it worked. A couple of times, I refused to talk to him. That worked too because he couldn't stand me not talking to him :-) A well written post this, covering all facets about why a parent should refrain from spanking. I’ll admit I did try it once but felt terrible afterwards. When talking or explaining didn’t work either, I decided to refuse to let him do things he loved doing the most. And thankfully, it worked. A couple of times, I refused to talk to him. That worked too because he couldn’t stand me not talking to him :-)

]]> By: Sarah http://theattachedparent.com/42/why-spanking-does-not-work/#comment-68 Sarah Wed, 10 Aug 2011 03:45:19 +0000 http://www.theattachedparent.com/42/why-spanking-doesn%e2%80%99t-work/#comment-68 Wow !!! Are we really living in the 21st century? Number 1: Not every couple have to contribute to increasing population. It is always a choice to enjoy with adult life without getting bothered by "brats". Number 2: Violance to another human being is against to Human Rights. Against to younger human beings is infinite-times against to Human Rights. It is cruel !!! Number 3: Violence is violence. There is no any softer version of it whichever name you use. I would definitely suggest Number 1. At least our future society will have healthier adults raised by parents who really know what they were doing. Well, for healthy but spanked generation. We do not have enough psychologist, and only well-paid people can go. Remember, you do not have to give birth to a child. This is not mandatory at all. Sarah Wow !!! Are we really living in the 21st century?

Number 1: Not every couple have to contribute to increasing population. It is always a choice to enjoy with adult life without getting bothered by “brats”.

Number 2: Violance to another human being is against to Human Rights. Against to younger human beings is infinite-times against to Human Rights. It is cruel !!!

Number 3: Violence is violence. There is no any softer version of it whichever name you use.

I would definitely suggest Number 1. At least our future society will have healthier adults raised by parents who really know what they were doing.

Well, for healthy but spanked generation. We do not have enough
psychologist, and only well-paid people can go.

Remember, you do not have to give birth to a child. This is not mandatory at all.

Sarah

]]> By: admin http://theattachedparent.com/42/why-spanking-does-not-work/#comment-67 admin Sat, 06 Aug 2011 01:44:18 +0000 http://www.theattachedparent.com/42/why-spanking-doesn%e2%80%99t-work/#comment-67 A family playing together is disturbing? A family playing together is disturbing?

]]> By: admin http://theattachedparent.com/42/why-spanking-does-not-work/#comment-66 admin Sat, 06 Aug 2011 01:43:39 +0000 http://www.theattachedparent.com/42/why-spanking-doesn%e2%80%99t-work/#comment-66 I have seen lots of brats. Their parents are often lazy and don't want to be bothered with real parenting. This article addresses parents who work HARD to give their kids guidance... just in non violent ways. I would wager they put 2 or 3 times the effort in that spanking parents do. Spanking is a lazy way to handle a problem if you ask me. The two have nothing to do with each other. I have seen lots of brats. Their parents are often lazy and don’t want to be bothered with real parenting. This article addresses parents who work HARD to give their kids guidance… just in non violent ways. I would wager they put 2 or 3 times the effort in that spanking parents do. Spanking is a lazy way to handle a problem if you ask me. The two have nothing to do with each other.

]]> By: admin http://theattachedparent.com/42/why-spanking-does-not-work/#comment-65 admin Sat, 06 Aug 2011 01:40:34 +0000 http://www.theattachedparent.com/42/why-spanking-doesn%e2%80%99t-work/#comment-65 There is NO evidence to support this and there thousands of other societal reasons that could be a factor. Remember that spanking is still the norm. In order for your theory to hold any wait you would have to prove that more parents than not have decided not to spank. I very rarely ever come across peaceful parents. No, you are probably doing a lot of assuming in regards to children you categorize as brats. Mock Dr. Phil if you must but I bet he has more experience with troubled children that you ever have or ever will have. Go ahead and mock what you cannot disprove. There is NO evidence to support this and there thousands of other societal reasons that could be a factor. Remember that spanking is still the norm. In order for your theory to hold any wait you would have to prove that more parents than not have decided not to spank. I very rarely ever come across peaceful parents. No, you are probably doing a lot of assuming in regards to children you categorize as brats.

Mock Dr. Phil if you must but I bet he has more experience with troubled children that you ever have or ever will have. Go ahead and mock what you cannot disprove.

]]> By: admin http://theattachedparent.com/42/why-spanking-does-not-work/#comment-64 admin Sat, 06 Aug 2011 01:36:06 +0000 http://www.theattachedparent.com/42/why-spanking-doesn%e2%80%99t-work/#comment-64 Parents who spank are modeling "hitting" and physical violence as a means of behavior modification and getting their way in matters. This one is pretty obvious. Parents who spank are modeling “hitting” and physical violence as a means of behavior modification and getting their way in matters. This one is pretty obvious.

]]> By: Scott http://theattachedparent.com/42/why-spanking-does-not-work/#comment-63 Scott Sat, 06 Aug 2011 01:24:03 +0000 http://www.theattachedparent.com/42/why-spanking-doesn%e2%80%99t-work/#comment-63 "Spanking teaches children that violence is the solution to problems. " Evidence for this statement please. “Spanking teaches children that violence is the solution to problems. ”

Evidence for this statement please.

]]> By: djb http://theattachedparent.com/42/why-spanking-does-not-work/#comment-62 djb Thu, 04 Aug 2011 23:57:21 +0000 http://www.theattachedparent.com/42/why-spanking-doesn%e2%80%99t-work/#comment-62 We have two kids. One is now 21, one is about to turn 16. They have both been spanked. Exactly once. I did the "precious snowflake" crap but there comes a time when the child needs to learn that "you must behave". One spanking. One spank. They understood immediately what I expected in terms of behaviour, and there was never a question after that. They are successful academically, are not using drugs, out on the street selling themselves, trapping and torturing small animals... They are well-adjusted you people who have goals, dreams and are working toward them with the full support of their parents. We have two kids. One is now 21, one is about to turn 16. They have both been spanked. Exactly once. I did the “precious snowflake” crap but there comes a time when the child needs to learn that “you must behave”.

One spanking. One spank. They understood immediately what I expected in terms of behaviour, and there was never a question after that.

They are successful academically, are not using drugs, out on the street selling themselves, trapping and torturing small animals… They are well-adjusted you people who have goals, dreams and are working toward them with the full support of their parents.

]]> By: Rob R http://theattachedparent.com/42/why-spanking-does-not-work/#comment-61 Rob R Thu, 04 Aug 2011 20:16:11 +0000 http://www.theattachedparent.com/42/why-spanking-doesn%e2%80%99t-work/#comment-61 My opinion is that this silly, passive form of parenting has led to the current generation of entitlement. I occasionally got spanked as a child and now I'm in charge of hiring from a pool of young people who have no ideas about how to be productive adults. They all know their rights but no one seems to understand their responsibilities. Of course, I'm probably wrong. I should fashion my lifestyle around the ideas presented here. After all, you have quotes from Dr Phil! sheesh My opinion is that this silly, passive form of parenting has led to the current generation of entitlement.

I occasionally got spanked as a child and now I’m in charge of hiring from a pool of young people who have no ideas about how to be productive adults. They all know their rights but no one seems to understand their responsibilities.

Of course, I’m probably wrong. I should fashion my lifestyle around the ideas presented here. After all, you have quotes from Dr Phil! sheesh

]]> By: Elizabeth http://theattachedparent.com/42/why-spanking-does-not-work/#comment-60 Elizabeth Thu, 04 Aug 2011 20:07:21 +0000 http://www.theattachedparent.com/42/why-spanking-doesn%e2%80%99t-work/#comment-60 A good talking to works? Have you seen the generation of brats being reared today? Walk into any local grocery store and watch the children run amok with no consequences. The parents who refuse to give a good spanking now and again literally cower in fear over the child's wrath and their "lectures" are downright laughable. I was spanked as a child and it sure taught me not to do said action again. I can assure you I am no juvenile delinquent either (in fact, I made the Dean's List this year at my university). Not all children need to be spanked, and it shouldn't be done out of anger, but it does work. I find those who were spanked themselves as children usually support spanking as parents because they know it works. A good talking to works? Have you seen the generation of brats being reared today? Walk into any local grocery store and watch the children run amok with no consequences. The parents who refuse to give a good spanking now and again literally cower in fear over the child’s wrath and their “lectures” are downright laughable. I was spanked as a child and it sure taught me not to do said action again. I can assure you I am no juvenile delinquent either (in fact, I made the Dean’s List this year at my university). Not all children need to be spanked, and it shouldn’t be done out of anger, but it does work. I find those who were spanked themselves as children usually support spanking as parents because they know it works.

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